A dummy is a God send when you have a newborn who is crying non stop or who is attached to your boob twentyfourseven. If you are a first time mum, odds are that you would find yourself clueless, therefore frustrated, tired and annoyed. You just want to do something so your baby will stop crying and you could get one minute of peace.

Yes, I know how that is because I’ve been there and I didn’t know what to do. My child would feed non stop and cry if she was not in my arms. She was in desperate need of my skin and my love but you see, my arms would only last a certain amount of time and because I wanted to be that perfect Susan on instagram I was beating myself up trying to raise a child, clean the house spotless, take her on such peaceful trips to the park and do it all by the book.

I was praying she would take a dummy and cam down, have some other comfort than myself. Little did I know how much I would hate this decision down the road. Back then I only wanted what I thought would be best for her and a dummy was my answer.

She refused it while she was still breastfeeding. I tried about five types and none got close to being the winner.

This was her face when she would see a dummy next to her. :))

As soon as the decision to move her on formula was taken she started sleeping a bit better and also … she took a dummy. First time she had a MAM dummy in her mouth she loved it.

Now this was my victory. She was quiet. I could hoover the house without holding her in one arm, I could easily go pee in peace and also get her milk ready using the function of both my hands.

What can I tell you? It was pure bliss. I felt like my life got so much easier but you see, once she took that dummy she was hooked.

This was her comfort and she wouldn’t let go. From about six months on she was falling asleep with a dummy in her hand and one in her mouth and it carried on like this almost a year when she gave up on one of them.

Going nursery from when she was about eight months old gave her a bit of independence and slowly she let the dummy go. Not at home though. She wasn’t having it in nursery but she would ask for it at bed times and I would have been fine with it.

Problem is after she turned two we had a holiday to see my family. She was not in her own environment and she was teething so she got a dummy during the day for comfort and that was the moment I started hating it.

She transformed into this wingy baby who would ask for a dummy day and night and she was also trying to speak while having it in her mouth.

SANTA CAME WITH PRESENT

Come Christmas time i told her Santa would arrive with presents and take her dummy. Yeah… it didn’t work as I expected so I got more and more determined to get rid of it.

Right after New Year I cut off her dummy and told her it’s broken. She seen it and gave it back to me. She was so disappointed but I explained to her that we don’t have another one.

I can tell you our days are filled with joy and laughter now and we have so much fun. Her speech is going so well and she smiles more.

Now, downside? Sleep time is always a challenge as she asks me to pick her up, hold her hand and anything you can imagine. She can’t settle easily and I still can’t figure out what trick would do the job here. No soft toy is good enough apparently.

I just go with the flow and hope for the best and if I ever get into this situation again, trust me, I would not offer that dummy to my child. This is how bad it stressed me out lately.

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